To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up. Review "Rare and compelling in its compassion and its unassuming eloquence There were a few details that did not match my life for sure, but on the whole, this book freed me. Certainly the spirit of Alice Miller's book was there in the therapist's thinking and actions, and there in her telling of the story too. Each is a defence against the other.
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In Miller wrote about the research from her time as a psychoanalyst: Briefly, Miller de They fuck you up, your mum and dad. If the child does not get the right narcissistic response, he will continue to search for narcissistic supplies for the rest of his life.
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Psychopaths will only ever have childish games of manipulation and dominance and this is all they ever want. It's a psychoanalyst's approach, so gofted is a lot of talk about your "inner-child," and that isnt always my favorite thing, but there is also a lot of wisdom in this approach to life aswell. Segal sees Miller as "one of the inaugurators of the trauma narrative" - the victim culture that not only gave us Dave Pelzer and a hundred other wannabe-bestselling memoirs of horrible childhoods, but also led to the wilder shores of regression therapy, rebirthing and recovered memory syndrome.
Alice Miller states that when she uses the word 'gifted' in the title, she had in mind "neither children who receive high grades in school nor children talented in a special way. My younger self couldn't necessarily put this together, but now that I'm in my sixth decade, I feel that I understand her better.
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Books by Alice Miller. After the session, I inevitably thought of the drama of the gifted child. Despite my point about the misrepresentation of Miller's book, it seems to me that the therapist handled the family session she describes with skill and insight.
And you do not have to have been a vicious childbeater - Proust's mother was no worse than clinging hte controlling, but it was enough, according to Miller, to condemn him to an untimely death. Leave this field blank.
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Why People Ignore Facts. When the other girls in her class came in, they would squeeze together at another table to avoid sitting with her. She gets carried away with herself and disregards other influences, other options.
The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self
Miller does make some generalizations in The Drama of the Gifted Childas I doubt all feminist women with piercings or angry male politicians faced childhood abuse. Add to My Bibliography. I can not recommend this book enough, painful as it is to read it and face truths about one's self.
But in this case you had an opportunity to make and intervention and you blew it. No peaceful surf, but a voluminous column of anger and unfathomable pain rushing to get out like a tidal wave breaking on the page, breathlessly tumbling, foaming, white torrential ideas propelled into RIGHT NOW by a distant draja earthquake of reckoning, words tumbling white like a hammer blow before the blood comes, tye into the shoreline and reshaping it in accordance with the unprovoked assault.
Even though it was full of Freudian psychological terminology, and it challenged me intellectually to read it, the process of looking up and familiarizing myself with the terms made me feel like I had unearthed a rare jewel, so much did it expand my knowledge and insight.
As I look forward to becoming a parent myself within the next few months against Larkin's advice, if you know the rest of the poem I can only hope to not fuck up my child, or at least to fuck them drqma as little as possible. Instead of real abuse, his patients suffered because they merely had fantasies of abuse: Would you like to tell us about a lower price?
These childhood traumas have crippled them in adulthood. For Miller, this is the only way that emotional blockages can be resolved. See all customer images. View or edit your browsing history. Miller's model of family relation ships has become a landmark for everyone from child-abuse professionals to the self-helping public. But as long as the issue of smacking keeps coming round, we will still need that voice. But her enthusiasm is tempered.
I have been to some truly insensitive counselors but this book put them on notice: The Drama of the Gifted Child: This narcissism is an internalisation of the great expectations of one's parents, the consequent lasting feelings of inadequacy and drive to greater and greater successes that leave one hollow.
It will also help you better understand the people around you and how they came to be the way they are.